Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Monday, December 29, 2008
The nursing home stay is to try to help him regain his strength, but we all know it could be that he ends up staying there.
That won't be easy on him,
.. .................or Mom,
.. ........................or us kids.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
"We put Dad in the hospital tonight."
It seems he has gotten a nasty virus that has settled in his lungs and has left him very weak. The ER doctor wanted to send him home. Mom called their Dr, who then read the ER Dr the riot act and then some!!!!! The nurses are giving Dad regular treatments to try and clear out his lungs, and he is on oxygen.
Mom says she has given the situation to the Lord. Dad does have prostrate cancer and Alzheimer's. And he is 84. So, I guess Mom is handling it quite well.
I do ask for prayer for the family. Thanks.
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Friday, December 19, 2008
But is it Christmas. The time of celebration of Christ's coming to earth as our Savior. We will still have a great time. Decorations are up, not as many as years past, but they are pretty and make us smile. Cards are coming in the mail, some with newsletters, some with photos to keep us updated and smiling. Visitors are coming, some with treats. All with smiles and good visits leaving us smiling and feeling great. Packages come, surprises await us. Smiles, good feelings, and love.
This the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it. Psalms 118:24
Friday, December 12, 2008
But the drain is open. Water descends. Susie & Dwight smile. And how in the world do you thank and repay a young man like our Tim? Can not even begin to imagine. He sure does not fit the stereotype of in-law-kids.
THANKS TIM. You are a terrific.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
I tried running the dishwasher, which runs into the same pipe and it was fine. So the blockage is above. It has a spot where I can remove part of the pipe, but I don't want to do it alone, but since everyone is quite busy when I am free and I am busy when they are free I guess it is time to call in the 'pros'. My checkbook hates that idea.
God is good, all the time, even when we have such frustrations. Things could be worse....we could have no water, or all the pipes could have a problem. Right now it is wash into buckets and dump the buckets. I can handle that for awhile.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
BAD NEWS--As I was finishing a comment on my sister's new blog (which it wouldn't let me post) Dwight called from the kitchen that both sides of the sink were plugged.
And after a half hour of work they are still plugged. With foul, dark, yucky water from the pans he was washing. Of course this old house has weird drains. And, of course I have NO Draino in the house. And I am not about to go out at this hour, in this neighborhood to get any, tomorrow will have to do. Hope I can wake myself early enough to do so. My alarm clock quit working Sunday and Dwight sleeps thru his. Boy is getting older interesting. And I have a cold, poor me. They have the heat turned heat down in Jo Ann's and twice last week I got really chilled. And now...
But God is good, I still have a job, contrary to rumors and the latest news; see: http://www.crainscleveland.com/article/20081205/FREE/812059947/1090/RSS0.
It is Advent, and we celebrate the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. We wonder at the fulfilment of the prophecies. This a time I love to get out my Thompson Chain Reference Bible and reread them all. And the Christmas music. So many styles. So many artists. Our satellite has a CD holiday station and we listen for awhile every night.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
But Saturday morning I was thankful it was cold, and that it is still cold. You see, I found my refrigerator had died. Like some people, it was only blowing hot air. I quickly found some boxes and loaded up meat and such from the freezer and took it to the garage/shop. While I was at work Dwight tried to find a repair person. Seems they like answer machines on Saturday. All but one gave their hours Monday thur Friday. That one stated that their rate is $92 an hour plus parts. Ouch!
I was prepared to go to Home Depot and pick one out Saturday after work but Dwight thinks we should wait till he talks with a breathing person. I am sure it is the compressor--after all it wasn't blowing cold air! Seems that when we had the compressor replaced on our frig in Leetonia 15-20 years ago it cost about $100.
Tomorrow will be the deciding day. In the mean time - meat is in the garage and a foam cooler is sitting outside the back door and the refrig sits empty. OH--and I have made three trips to the trash can with everything that spoiled or would spoil.
Some people say that they have a black cloud over them--I am tempted to look over my shoulder for mine. I am thankful that I didn't buy alot of the things I had considered at Sam's club--fresh ground beef, frozen fish, a double pack of Velveeta, and other things. Normally I would have, but I must now acknowledge that God was keeping my hands off all that food that probably would have been lost.
But the SNOW is beautiful, soft and light. Could use a little more.
Saturday, November 22, 2008
beautiful homes on the way.
At MVNU we cheered for the Shepherd Naz Quiz team as they (both teams) earned 2nd place trophies. This was Isaiah's first teen quiz and he quickly caught on to the quizzing techniques, especially the scoring.
After a short detour (heading in the wrong direction) we stopped at Wendy's for a frosty and a coffee. (Guess which one I got..)
But, the best part of the day for me was observing the maturing of my grandson and the generous nature he is developing, I am sure, in part, from the example of his parents. After lunch in the cafeteria we stopped at the gift shop with our Quiz team. After a slow trip around the shop, Isaiah shopped for his family, ever so careful to get
the right gift for each one.
And he didn't get a thing for himself.
I was pretty pleased with him, but the best was yet to come.
On the way home he was counting his money and I noticed he had quite a few ones. I asked if I could buy ten from him for Papa's bus trips--no problem. And he threw a few quarters, no I didn't have to buy them. When I got home I gave them to Papa. The dear child had slipped in an extra one
and had given seven quarters.
Children learn what they live.
Kudos to the parents leading by example.
Kudos to Isisah for learning.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
My brother Wayne cleared part of their driveway, but Dad won't let Mom go anywhere, not even to shovel the porch.
They have had some more snow showers, and then today 3 inches of snow and will have 5-6 more over night and up to 10 inches tomorrow.
I don't ever remember this much snow this early in the season as a kid. Bet they don't have school tomorrow.
My sister Becky was driving home Sunday night from visiting her daughter, once she hit Cleveland it was pretty much whiteouts, she drove extremely slow the whole way to Falconer NY, keeping an eye on the tail lights in front of her. Thank you God for your protection.
I went to Lowe's Monday after work and found a side door, my wonderful son-in-law, Tim, came and brought it home for us. the sub installed it Wednesday.
Dwight wanted to talk with general contractor before he finished paying, but of course the Shirey luck was in control again. He came while Dwight was at Pain Management and Aurora and I were flying out the door to pick up Jackson from school.
But, we have have door and gutters and a semi repaired railing. I think I can handle the rest in my free time.
We could have been totally ripped off or charged three or four times as much. Or the house could have suffered more damage. We thank God for his goodness.
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Is Murphy's Law living at the Shirey's?
We have been waiting, and waiting and waiting for the contractor to come and fix the problems created by the wind storm in September.
He stopped by Wednesday stated he would have a man on the job Thursday. We needed half down to get the job started. Ok. And a check for the storm doors. Ok.
Thursday came and went, no one came.
Friday, about 10 he finally came. He fixed the ramp railing. Mostly. It is loose, it is nailed, but not screwed. And the damaged storm doors were taken off. Additional damage was discovered at the side door. He took off the gutters. The gutter people will be here Saturday, he said. So would he with the new doors.
One of the doors we chose is not available. No where.
Friday night it started raining. No gutters, no storm doors.
Saturday has come and gone....wind and snow have come. But no storm doors. No gutters. And no answers, the phone has been disconnected. Dwight is confident the general contractor is a good guy. I'm not sure about the sub contractor.
And we have no storm doors and no gutters.
But we have drafts and water in the basement.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Friday, November 7, 2008
Thanks to all who have been praying for us. There is just no way to tell you how much that means and how much those prayers have been helpful. There are many times we are aware of the strength that we have that comes from the prayers of others. I have no idea of how many wonderful, faithful people are whispering our names and needs to God, but I ask God to bless you all in His special wonderful ways. We serve a great merciful God.
Friday, October 31, 2008
The results of the blood work was sent to another Dr as Dwight's DR is on vacation. The numbers are looking very good--they are going down faster than they did in the hospital.(They are still above normal) AND that is without the one drug that Dwight is not taking twice a day as prescribed. And he forgets to drink extra water in the afternoon. Praise God.
He is still battling depressed feelings from all this, especially being in the house alone while I am at work. He misses seeing his children and grandchildren and all the friends and interaction he has had in the past. But, he continues to lean on God. And he prays often and much for his family, friends and prayer requests that come his way.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
I'm not sure he stopped talking--he reminded me of my Grandmother, she often was the last one done eating cuz she enjoyed talking to her family.
The greatest part of the kidnapping was when Isaiah walked me out to my van and told
me 'I love you.' Smiling, he returned to the warm, cozy Henn Home.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Dwight has been home four days. All the stay did
was lower his calcium from 7.0 to 6.3. He should
be at 2.0. But his is in more pain, more tired, and
now as shingles (the Dr on the phone thinks).
Probably from the stress. He called the Dr's practice
today to try to get in and see a different Dr today, (his
is on vacation this week.)all he got was a recording.
He also needs to give more blood--a long trip down the
hall, up an elevator and another long hall. And reschedule
pain management that he missed last week. And wound
care. And he is always cold.
I could go on and on, but that is depressing. We have
enough of that already. Dwight is having a very hard
time facing all of this, especially the pain. He doesn't
like me going to work, he gets lonely, but I must.
And now the grandkids can't visit for 3-4 weeks cuz of the
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Saturday, October 18, 2008
Both Drs called Dwight before I got home about the results. The kidney Dr wasn't too happy that Dwight won't just pack up and check into the hospital, she doesn't seem to understand how Cota mainstream works as far as scheduling going. Dwight told he won't go till Monday, I don't think she is used to someone telling her no. Dwight talked with is regular Dr and she said Monday if fine. But it does need to be done. A super flush, alot of fluids in and out to try and get the calcium out of his system.
But we don't know when a bed will be avaiable so it will still have to be a same day service call, Monday is the busiest for that. But we will just wait and see and trust God to work it all out.
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
I wonder at my husband. I don't know how he keeps going. Don't know how he doesn't totally crack. (Yes, he is a little cracked, always has been, that's him). He doesn't sleep more that a total of two hours at a time, sometimes only an hour. Often it is dozing in the wheelchair, how he doesn't fall out, I don't know. Rarely does he get good, refreshing sleep. When a four hour sleep happens it is time for rejoicing. I know I couldn't handle it. I have proof. Two weeks ago he had a REAL bad night and had me awake every hour, or hour and a half. (Now mind you I don't wake easy after I am asleep--think I was sleep walking part of the time.) Anyhow, the next day wasn't easy for me and those around me. And Dwight does it every day. Any one have a spare crown I can have?
Rather than frustration, we should be thankful for his ability to function close to normal.
Thanks for listening.
Monday, September 29, 2008
Generally we thing of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives.
Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner,we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way.
There's work to do, deadlines to meet:
You've got no time to spare,
But as you hurry and scurry-
ASAP-ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.
In the midst of family chaos,
"Quality Time" is rare.
Do your best; let God do the rest-
ASAP-ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
It may seem like your worries
Are more than you can bear.
Slow down and take a breather-
ASAP-ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER
God know how stressful life is;
He wants to ease our cares,
And He'll respond to all your needs
ASAP-ALWAYS SAY A PRAYER.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
But the tree is gone and the insurance company says, "Get the ramp and roof fixed!!!!" (Hey, how about a new tree?)
Jackson and Aurora are spending the night, and their soft breathing on the other side of this room is so sweet. I have five wonderful grandchildren. If you haven't stopped by Karin's blog do so, she has some great pics of my two grandsons playing soccer. They sure to love it and are good at it. Esther Faith loves to walk in the store where I work, making sure I know she is there, and then takes off to 'shop'. Kristen's computer is giving her fits so she hasn't been able to update lately, sorry.
Sunday, September 21, 2008
He spared our and the neighbors house from our huge pine.
And now our son in law was here, in the dark removing
What was left of the root after they removed all the smaller roots.
The root hole,
Aurora wants it back so she can play in it.
The root that is still in the ground,
just before it goes under the sidewalk.
not bad, the gutter is gone, and a slight concave in the corner.
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Opps, hit the wrong file, but it is cute, so we will leave it in. All the kids think our dog, Deanna, belongs to them. When we acquired Deanna in Sept. 2003, she didn't necessarily like kids, but she (and allot of loving and kids sharing dog biscuits) has changed her mind. She even comes to them if they sit still for more than 10 seconds and gets very, very close.
Tuesday night, when Kristen brought her two to spend the night, they both were fearful of
Aurora was content to sit, no climbing for her.
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Hopefully this will work. He has continued to be weaker and weaker. His sugar levels have been dangerously low in the morning, so one of his pills is being adjusted.
Of course, next Monday is the fall equinox and my husbands weather sensitive body is feeling every inch of the earths change .
Oh, can we add one more thing? The storm has left the plaza where I work without electric till possibly Sunday. So-o-o no work, no pay. I guess we have some more challenges to meet, another opportunity to cry out to God in our weakness and let His strength and wisdom power us. He has , He does and He will. Praise the Lord for His love and care.
Monday, September 15, 2008
You can barely see the door that is the only exit/entrance for Dwight...
But Tim wasn't going to let that remain, he and the family came over with a pruning saw and a modern version of the coal miners lamp, and expended a huge amount of energy to open up the ramp for his favorite father-in-law:
But as with age we all weaken, as has this tree. We have discussed having it removed and planting something else. Discussed. A few times. Then Ike visited town.
I left work early cuz the high winds had played havoc with our electric and the registers refused to work. I drove down our street to view the front door that my husband had reported as flying freely on it's hinges, I noticed half the neighborhood staring at our house. There was our tree with a lean to, not a slight lean, but a rather mean lean. I tried to hurry, but neighbors where flagging me down and our alley was full of trash cans and broken limbs. Three stops and with help from the neighbors I got home. I was warned to move my husband to the right side of the living room. One neighbor told me the tree was pulling up from the ground.
I cautiously walked up the ramp with a eye on the swaying pine.
Inside I couldn't find my husband, panic rose in my throat. I called, he as in the study. I informed him of the outside happenings. (Like he wouldn't know) Ran back to window, peaked out, yea, the ground was swelling with each strong gust. And the tree moved closer and closer to the neighbors house. I ran back to the husband, PRAY!!! I am!! So calm--doesn't he feel my panic?!?! Back to the window, more ground swell. Called the neighbors to tell them to move out of their living room--no answer. Back to my husband--
The Tree Came Down.
I have a cell phone video from a neighbor across the street, if you would like to see it email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I forward it to you.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
I asked him what he would like for his birthday--"To wake up and find this has all been a dream." Not sure what store carries that, would love to fix it all for him.
Thanks to all who ask about him and pray for him, it sure does help. We are very aware of the prayers surrounding us. He received a card yesterday that stated that the sender has been praying extra since the day these new problems arose, and no one outside of our family has been aware of them until Dwight called the Drs. It is wonderful how God works.
We also have sampled the Moonglow pear, it has a different taste. I enjoyed it more than the Bartlett. Can't wait for next year, hopefully the Ayers tree will also bless us with fruit. Fruit trees: beauty in the spring, shade in the summer and fruit in the fall. (Also, our birds enjoy sitting in them and singing for us.)
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Friday, September 5, 2008
Sunday, August 31, 2008
I will be picking them this week, altho they are alittle green--I have discovered that the ants are rather anxious for them to mature and are sampling them. This isn't Sam's club you know, get lost. Any how, we will have a lot of pears from our first crop. There may be a pear pie, or something of the sort in Dwight's near future.
I am now seriously considering a couple of apple trees to add to our small orchard. Just need to decide on the type, cost and muscle power--oh, and the all elusive, but important ingredient, TIME.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
We now are doing all we can to eliminate the infection and not cause any more damage. We were encourage to learn that his diabetes has not caused any problems. Praise the Lord.
Friday, August 15, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
But the nurses in the Radiology Department questioned this and called the Dr. It seems someone in the office didn't understand our transportation needs and 'just decided' to give the order to stay over--it didn't come from the Dr, but sounded like it did. This wonderful, compassionate nurse even call COTA Mainstream and got my dear husband a ride home within the hour. WOW, I am not sure even Dwight could have done that and they know his name and voice at Mainstream dispatch.
We are safely home, Karin stopped by with the grandchildren so that Isaac could see, hug and pray for his PAPA. He is quite a PAPA's boy and was not happy that PAPA was going into the hospital.
Thanks to all who have expressed concern and offered prayers for Dwight.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Monday, August 4, 2008
We have been having a great time with the grandkids coming over. I could bore you silly with proud grandparent stories about how outstanding, talented, beautiful, handsome, great, etc, etc our kids are---and it all is true. But I won't-----you are welcome. (If you really want to know, ask or read the girls blogs)
But--Dwight is having a terrible summer. Pain, weakness, new pains, lack of appetite, and many other things. He has had many extra blood tests and has more tests coming. Would really like to know what is going on. If God prompts you, we would appreciate your prayers. Thanks.
Series: Becoming a Woman of Discretion
Monday, August 4 2008
Leslie Basham: Here’s Nancy Leigh DeMoss.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss: As we’ve moved now into the 21st century, we find so few models of truly wise women and so many models of foolish women. There’s such a widespread lack of teaching and understanding today.
One of the things that God has really put on my heart is the need for us as women to realize the power of our influence and to ask God to examine our hearts and our lives as Christian women to show us areas where we are foolish though we may have been blind to it or ignorant of it. We need to get wise to where we’ve been foolish.
Leslie: This is Revive Our Hearts with Nancy Leigh DeMoss. It’s Monday, August 4. You’ve probably seen news reports showing a building being imploded. The tearing down of a building can draw huge crowds as engineers demonstrate their power to reduce a large, stable structure to a pile of rubble.
Today on Revive Our Hearts Nancy Leigh DeMoss will warn us of a similar power we have as women. Now, most of us will never demolish an old building, but we can tear down our families and those around us through our words and actions. Here’s Nancy to explain.
Nancy: Throughout the book of Proverbs we read about two different kinds of people. These people are as different from each other as night is from day. We see over and over again references to people who are wise, and the opposite of wise people are those who are foolish. Wise people and foolish people.
When we speak of somebody being wise or being foolish, we’re talking about the condition of their heart. We’re talking about an inner character, what they’re like at the core of their being.
Now we find through the book of Proverbs that whether a person is wise or is foolish in their heart and in their character will determine everything else about them:
the way that they think
the way that they act
the way that they have relationships
the way that they talk
the way that they dress
everything about their lives
the way they spend money
the way they use their time
This is all going to be determined by whether they are wise or foolish.
A person with a wise heart is going to live wisely. A person who has a foolish heart is going to live foolishly. What’s on the inside is going to come out. What comes out in our way of living in every area of life is invariably going to have an influence on the people around us. So our character, our heart, is going to express itself, it’s going to manifest itself, and who we are in our daily living is not just going to matter to us. It matters to the people around us. The people we live with, the people we work with will be influenced by our wisdom or our foolishness.
Now there’s a verse in Proverbs chapter 14, verse 1, that applies this matter of wisdom and foolishness to women—two kinds of women. There are two kinds of women in this room. And at any given moment in my life, I’m living as one of these two kinds of women. Proverbs 14:1 says, “Every wise woman builds her house, but every foolish woman tears it down with her hands.”
Two kinds of women. There are wise women and there are foolish women. Some days I’m acting very much like a wise woman and some days, more than I care to think about, I’m acting very much like a foolish woman because what’s in my heart at any given moment is what’s going to come out.
We see here that the results or consequences of what’s in our heart are pretty serious. If a woman has a wise heart and she’s living wisely, she’s going to be a builder. She’s going to be building up her home. Now we’re not speaking here of just a literal home, although this certainly applies to our families. If you are a married woman, if you have a husband, if you have children, that’s the first home where this all needs to be applied. That’s where wisdom or foolishness comes out in the first place.
But your home may also be other aspects of your surroundings. Your workplace. Your church environment. Your neighborhood. All that is around you. The sphere of influence that God has given you. If you are a woman of wisdom, your life will be constructive. It will be building up the people around you.
Now we would like to be wise women, but we have a warning here and that is that sometimes we can be foolish women. What happens with the foolish woman? She doesn’t just keep her foolishness in her heart. It comes out and it is highly destructive in its influence. The foolish woman tears her house down with her hands.
Now notice in this passage we’re not really given a middle ground. I’m either building up or I’m tearing down. Now ask yourself, what kind of influence am I having on the people around me? Am I having an influence that’s the result of a heart of wisdom or am I having an influence that’s the result of being a foolish woman?
I think we really underestimate the incredible influence that we have as women—for evil or for good. The influence that we have in our homes, in our churches, in our community and in this nation. Now you may not think of yourself as a very influential woman, but I’m here to say you are, and I am.
John Adams, who was the second president of the United States, pointed that out in relation to women in this quote. He said:
From all that I have read of history and government, of human life and manners, I have drawn this conclusion, that the manners of women were the most infallible barometer to ascertain the degree of morality and virtue of a nation.
Do you hear what he’s saying there? If you want to find out how moral and virtuous a nation is, go and look at the way that the women act. He goes on to say:
The Jews, the Greeks, the Romans, the Swiss, the Dutch, all of them lost their public spirit and their republican forms of government when they lost the modesty and domestic virtues of their women.
He’s just affirming what God says in His Word. “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands” (Proverbs 14:1, NASB).
I have a friend who is an older man of God. For many years he’s been a speaker, an author. He told me recently that back in 1985 as he was praying, God pressed upon his heart with a strong sense that we were going to see in the years ahead a widespread increased wickedness and corruption among women. He said this was such a heaviness to him, such a strong sense that he began to make it a matter of earnest prayer.
As we talked about this just within the last several months, he shared this with me now many years later. We began to discuss how true this was. We began to name women and some of the names will come to your mind. Women who are well-known in our nation who just epitomize this widespread evil influence of women.
But it’s not just among the well-known women. Among women broadly there’s been a great increase in these last few decades of corruption and wickedness. In recent years we’ve seen in the highest places in our land the powerful influence of ungodly women. The power these women have had to tear down, to destroy, not just individual men, though they have certainly done that, but also the moral sensitivities and fiber of the whole nation.
Now I’m not saying in all of this that men are blameless, but God didn’t call me to preach to men. God didn’t give me the role of facing men with their need for change. God called me as a woman to challenge us as women to see what is our responsibility in this matter.
Let me go a step further. This problem of widespread wickedness and corruption among women is not just in our secular culture. I think you would probably agree with me that in our evangelical Christian world as well there has been an increase, a great increase in ungodliness and foolishness among women.
In so many ways we have redefined what it means to be a woman or what it means to be a man and what the differences are between the two. It’s not uncommon today in Christian settings and even in ministry settings to hear women and men saying that there really aren’t any differences between men and women—any differences of significance. We’ve lost our moorings. Think of some of these old-fashioned words: modest, chaste, discrete, pure. Many women today, many Christian women don’t even know the meaning of those words.
A few years ago I became involved in a situation where there was a Christian leader who had been involved in inappropriate behavior with a female staff member. When his wife faced him with this information, his response was, “Come on, this is the ’90s.” You see the thinking there? Things have changed. Times have changed. Well times certainly have changed, but truth never changes.
As we’ve moved now into the 21st century, we find so few models of truly wise women and so many models of foolish women. There’s such a widespread lack of teaching and understanding today. One of the things that God has really put on my heart is the need for us as women to realize the power of our influence and to ask God to examine our hearts and our lives as Christian women to show us areas where we are foolish though we may have been blind to it or ignorant of it. We need to get wise to where we’ve been foolish so that we can repent and so that we can begin to model the heart of a wise woman.
Then let me take it a step further. Not only do we need to see where we have been foolish so that we can change by God’s grace, but what a need there is for us to teach our daughters and to teach younger women in this generation what it means to be a wise woman. Now first we teach by our example. But then we teach by our words and our discipleship and our mentoring, taking these younger women under our wings and teaching them what it means to be pure, to be modest, to be chaste, to be a godly woman in a dark and ungodly day.
We not only need to teach our daughters and our younger women, but mothers need to be teaching their sons along with the fathers teaching. But mothers as a part of that, teaching their sons what it means to be a man of God and what qualities to admire in a woman and what qualities to avoid in a woman. What does a foolish woman look like? What does she act like? What are her characteristics?
Proverbs chapter 7, provides for us I think one of the most vivid, thorough descriptions of a foolish woman that you will find anywhere in God’s Word. Now I want to begin reading just the first five verses of this chapter and then in the days ahead we’ll go verse by verse through this entire description of a foolish woman and see if there’s anything in this passage that God exposes to be a need in our own lives.
Now actually the context of this passage is that a father is teaching his son and he’s going to warn his son about foolish women. So we as woman need to look at this description and see, is this the kind of woman that this man was warning his son about.
So beginning in verse 1, the father says:
My son, keep my words, and lay up my commandments with thee. Keep my commandments, and live.
Now make note of that word live because when we come down the road to the end of this chapter, we’re going to see that the foolish woman leads a man to death. The end of her pathway is the way of death. In the last verse, verse 27 in this chapter, you’ll see that the conclusion of the foolish woman is death.
But this father is saying to his son if you’ll listen to my words and heed my commandments and look for wise women and avoid foolish women, the result will be life. So that says that we as women can be life givers. If we are wise, we can give life to the men around us and we’ll see, to the contrary, if we are foolish women, we will producing death in others.
So this father says, verses 2-3:
Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine eye. Bind them upon thy fingers, write them upon the table of thine heart.
Don’ forget these things, he’s saying. These are so important. Put reminders everywhere around you so that you can be warned against this foolish kind of woman.
Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman” (verse 4).
Look for wisdom. Look for understanding, he’s saying. Get close to them. Get closely related to them. And what will happen? He says to his son if you get close to wisdom, if you walk with people who are wise, and if you stay close to wise people, what will happen? Verse 5,
That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.
The strange woman. Now perhaps your translation says the word adulteress there. Another translation takes that phrase and says the loose woman. The word strange there really means "literally to turn aside." It’s a woman who is wayward. She has turned aside, and she is the epitome of a foolish woman.
In the book of the Song of Solomon chapter 8, verse 9, there’s a verse that references two different kinds of women and there’s a word picture given there. It says that some women are like a wall and some women are like a door. Now as you think about the women you know, and by the way, this is an important thing to notice even in your young daughters because women have more natural bents one direction or the other to be more of a wall or to be more of a door.
When you think of a wall, you think of something that is firm and unyielding. I can’t walk up to that wall—I can push against it, but the wall isn’t going anywhere. It’s not going to move. It’s settled. It’s established. In the Song of Solomon, we’re seeing that some women are like a wall. When foolish or simple or unwise or ungodly men come against them, those women have lives that are built upon convictions and they’re not going anywhere. They’re not going to be moved by ungodly advances or by inappropriate behavior on the part of men. They’re firm. They’re unyielding in their convictions because they have rooted their lives in the ways of God.
Now when you think of a door, as we have some doors in this room. I can walk up to that door and open the door. I can push against it. I can move it back and forth. It’s not going to stay in just one position. That’s a picture of a girl, a woman who yields easily to ungodly or inappropriate behavior on the part of men. She gives in. Her life is not built on conviction.
You see there the difference between the wise woman—she’s like a wall—and the foolish woman who is like a door? Watch for this in your daughters. Teach your sons to watch for it in other women to find out is this woman more like a wall or like a door. The strange woman is the woman who was like a door. She’s a loose woman. She is turned aside. She doesn’t stay in the straight and narrow and holy path.
Now few, if any, of us in this room would consider ourselves to be immoral women. As we’re going to read through Proverbs chapter 7, over these next days, you’ll see some pretty graphic descriptions. The natural response is, “That woman isn’t me. I don’t act that way.” And you may not in terms of outward behavior. But most of us as women today and all of us in some ways have been influenced so subtly by the world and its ways of thinking.
The ways of the world have infiltrated the lifestyles of those of us who are church women. Those of us who know the Lord and we know more about the ways of God have been more influenced than we realize in most cases by worldly and foolish ways of thinking.
Now I’m not suggesting that all of us women, all of us who have been influenced in some way by the world’s way of thinking are adulteresses or harlots is the word used later in this passage. I’m not suggesting that every woman who has any of these characteristics is an immoral woman. But we do need to ask ourselves as we get into this passage if we have adopted any of the characteristics describing this woman.
It talks about:
her ways of thinking
her ways of relating to men
her values that are temporal versus eternal.
You may not be this immoral woman who’s hanging . . . I mean this woman in this passage is a prostitute, in a sense. She’s acting like one. She is knowingly, willingly, intentionally ensnaring a young, foolish man, and we’ll see that as the passage unfolds in the days ahead. You may never have had that kind of behavior, but as I’ve gone through this passage I thank the Lord for having, by His grace and mercy, protected me from those outward expressions of this immoral woman.
But I have to tell you, I’ve been convicted over and over again in this passage that some of those traits have roots in my own heart, that some of those characteristics are ways that I have acted and responded toward men. Not in outward, visible ways, but in matters of the heart.
So we have to ask, “Lord, show me if any of these characteristics that we’re going to look at, characteristics of this strange woman, this loose woman, this turned-aside woman, are any of those characteristics in me? Characteristics that ultimately lead to the ruin and the downfall of the men around us.
Any one of us as women, and I’m speaking to women in this room who have a heart for the Lord. You love God. You want to be a godly woman. That’s why you’re here in this session. But any one of us, and I include myself in this, may unwittingly, unknowingly, unintentionally be causing the men around us to stumble.
I’m not just talking about out there in the world. I’m saying in our church relationships, in our Christian homes, in our Christian schools, in our work places. We may be causing the men around us to stumble in foolish ways and ultimately to go in ways that lead to death and not even realize that that’s what we’ve done.
So we need to learn to recognize the traits, the characteristics of this foolish woman, this strange woman, this loose woman and to open up our hearts and say, “Lord, is that me? Have I in ways that I may not have even realized been a foolish woman and been tearing down the lives of the men around me?”
Leslie: Nancy Leigh DeMoss wants to pray with you and she’ll be right back to do just that, but first let me show you how you can follow up on today’s program and study the differences between a wise and foolish woman for yourself. Nancy’s written a booklet called Becoming a Woman of Discretion that goes into detail about some of the issues we’re dealing with this week on the program. The nice thing about the booklet is you can sit with it quietly during your own Bible study time and take it at a pace that’s comfortable for you. It’s an effective way to learn how to avoid being a foolish woman.
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Tomorrow find out how clothing can reveal the foolishness of a heart. Now let’s pray with Nancy.
Nancy: Let’s just take a moment now and pause and open our hearts to the Lord. You may want to just bow your head there before the Lord and say, Lord, show me any ways that I’ve been a foolish woman. Show me any ways that I’ve been a loose woman and any ways that I’ve never seen. I’ve been blind to it. I haven’t realized it. But I just want to be honest before You. I want You to shine the light of Your Word and Your truth into my heart and expose what I may never have seen.
And Lord, where there are those ways in me may I be quick to confess, to agree with You, to repent, and then would You make me into a wise woman? Would you make me into a woman who builds up the lives of the men around me, that my life may be a godly influence? Thank You, Lord, for Your Word and Your ways that are given to protect us and for our good and for the good of those around us. We pray that Your Word would give insight and light into our lives, that You may be glorified through us as Your women. I pray in Jesus’ name, amen.
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Thursday, July 24, 2008
Did You Know July Is Beautiful Women Month?
Well, It Is And That Means You And Me.
Facts On Figures :
There are 3 billion women who don't look like supermodels and only eight who do.
Marilyn Monroe wore a size 14.
If Barbie was a real woman, she'd have to walk on all fours due to herproportions.
The average woman weighs 144 lb. and wears between! a 12-14.
One out of every four college aged women has an eating disorder.
The models in the magazines are airbrushed -- not perfect!
A psychological study in 1995 found that three minutes spent looking at afashion magazine caused 70% of women to feel depressed, guilty, and shameful.
Models twenty years ago weighed 8% less than the average woman.Today they weigh 23% less.
~Beauty of a Woman~
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, The figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes, Because that is the doorway to her heart, The place where love resides. The beauty of a woman Is not in a facial mole, But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, The passion that she shows. The beauty of a womanWith passing years -- only grows.
All In The Point Of View
An English professor wrote the words, "Woman without her man is nothing," on the blackboard and directed the students to punctuate it correctly.
The men wrote: "Woman, without her man, is nothing."
The women wrote: "Woman! Without her, man is nothing."
The Images of Mother
4 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mommy can do anything!
8 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mother doesn't really know quite everything.
14 YEARS OF AGE ~ Naturally, Mother doesn't know that, either.
16 YEARS OF AGE ~ Mother? She's hopelessly old-fashioned.
18 YEARS OF AGE ~ That old woman? She's way out of date!
25 YEARS OF AGE ~ Well, she might know a little bit about it.
35 YEARS OF AGE ~ Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion.
45 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wonder what Mom would have thought about it?
65 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wish I could talk it over with Mom.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
My cucumber have grown alot this week, as have the tomatoes, including a dozen or more volunteers, some even in the lawn and the neighbor missed them with the lawn mower!! The hanging tomato that neighbor got for Dwight has lots of small tomatoes on it!!! I still have an empty planter that Dwight built that is waiting for soil and veggies to be planted. Still time for zucchini and ????
All the flowers look great. Had five jack-in-the-pulpits this year. A pure white pansy seeded itself and looking wonderful amid the greenery of the violets. Under the pine I have a 'weed' that I have yet to identify. It is some type of fern, flowers are about to bloom. Hope I haven't made a mistake letting grow. It is almost as tall as me.
Looks of blueberries coming on and two of the pear trees have fruit on them.
Guess you can't take to country out of the farm girl.
Monday, June 9, 2008
Thursday, May 29, 2008
I put the machine on it's slowest speed so he could keep all his fingers and sanity.
Ta-da...the first seam. Do I see a look of wonderment?
And then, the true carpenter. It is straight? Now, mind you, this is his first ever, ever seam. And, according to him it is NOT straight. I only saw one small wobble, one--his first seam. I told him that with his skill and perfectionism he could piece all my quilt tops...I haven't convinced him yet.
Saturday, May 24, 2008
9. The cross of Christ is sufficient to conquer my sinful flesh. (Romans 6:67 --I don't have to sin--Romans 6:14
10. My past does not have to plaque me. (1 Cor 6:9-11)
**My past failures can become stepping stones to greater victory and fruitfulness.
**If I will let Him, God will cause everything that has happened to me to work together for
my good and for His glory.
11. God's Word is sufficient to lead me, teach me, and heal me. (Psalms 19:7; 107: 20; 119:105)
12. Through the power of His Holy Spirit, God will enable me to do anything that He commands
me to do. (1Thess. 5:24)
**There is no one that I cannot forgive. Mark 11:25
** There is no one that I cannot love. Matthew 5:44
**I can give thanks in all things. 1 Thess 5:18
** I can be content. Hebrews 13:5; Philippians 4:11
13. I am responsible before God for my behavior, responses, and choices. (Ez 18:19-22)
14. I will reap whatever I sow. (Galatians 6:7-8)
15. The pathway to true joy is to relinquish control. (Luke 1:38; 1 Peter 5:7; Matthew 16:25)
**of my life
** of my husband
** of my children
** of my circumstances
16. The greatest freedom I can experience is found through submission to God-ordained
authority. (Ephesians 5:23)
** The husband is the head of the wife Ephesians 5:23
**The wife is to reverence and submit to her husband Ephesians 5:22, 23
**The heart of the king is in the Lord's hand....Proverbs 21:1
17. In the will of God, there is no higher, holier calling than to be a wife and mother.
18. Personal holiness is more important that temporal happiness. Ephesians 5:26-27
**Happiness is not a right.
19. God is more concerned about changing me and glorifying Himself, than about solving my
problems. Romans 8:29.
20. It is impossible to be godly without suffering.
**Suffering is a tool in the hand of God to conform me to the image of Jesus. 1 Peter 5:10
21. My suffering will not last forever. 2 Cor. 4:17-18, Psalms 30:5
22. "It's not about me. It's all about Him. Colossians 1:16-18
"If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free." John 8:31, 32
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I must say, I did not expect to feel the conviction that I have felt in writing this to share with you. I have been a Christian I long time, and I know (and have taught) that it is a continual, growing process. But I didn't realize how I have drifted and have not been listening to God's voice. I now must spend some time in confession, reading all these scriptures, prayer and allowing God to help me get back on His path. I look forward to any of your comments and sharing's.
Monday, May 12, 2008
The Truth That Sets Us Free
- God is good. (Ps 119:68; 136:1)
- God loves me and wants me to have His best. (Rom 8:32; 38-39)
- I am complete and accepted in Christ. ( Eph 1:6)
- God is enough. (Ps. 23:1)
- God can be trusted. (Isa. 28:16)
- God doesn't make any mistakes (Isa. 46:10) Everything that comes into my life has been 'filtered through His fingers of love.'
- God's grace is sufficient for me. (2Cor. 12:9)
I will share the rest later. Susie
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
The bleeding hearts gently sway in the corner of the flower bed, several other plants are slowing adding their promise of later flowers behind them. One lone pansy, a beautiful snow white peeks out, letting me know she survived the winter. In the opposite corner the miniature yellow lilies bloom amidst a bed of white ground cover flowers a great neighbor shared with me two years ago. The clematis have rapidly climbed the arbor, only one the other gave in to winter.
One of the three transplanted ferns made it. And only dare devil dandy lion attempted to join the chorus of flowers, it no longer is among the living.
In a backyard flower bed of violets the jack in the pulpit has finally started unfurling its gentle leaves under the protected of more violets. Standing guard at the corners of the house are two stately lilacs, gifts from my Dad and sister Karen the first summer we lived in Columbus.
And behind the garage, for myself, the lady across the alley and anyone who drives slowly down the alley--three columbines are showing their beauty to all. Four poppies are in a sprint to see who will be the biggest (hope the flowers are as great). The hollyhocks are showing great promise also, so much beauty and so much promise of more to follow. What a great time of year.
Monday, April 28, 2008
And, as I haven't kept up with my blog and encouragement for you in our 30 day challenge, I have 'fallen off the wagon." (Translation, I failed, miserably, in fulfilling the challenge.) But I am going to try again, and again,... hopefully, each time I start again because of failure it will be longer and longer apart. I ask you join me again.
If any of you want to share with me, but not in the comments, I have two email accounts: email@example.com and firstname.lastname@example.org . feel free to write to me on either one.
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